The other day as I was walking to the lunch room at work, I noticed a whole gaggle of geese by the pond. I love geese and they are quite amazing creatures. As I walked past, the geese socialized with each other and doing their “goose” thing, taking a rest so they can finish their long southward journey.
At the age of three years, a goose chooses a mate. Being such a loyal bird, a goose is known to live with its mate for most of its life. Even after death of one, the other one would live several years, alone, without engaging with a new partner. And sometimes, they remain single for the rest of their life.
How many humans are as loyal and dedicated as a goose? Not many. I do wonder if they stress about things their spouse does or doesn’t do. I am curious if they get angry and hold grudges toward the other one. Do they overlook all the flaws and annoying habits? Do they have meaningful conversations with each other? What makes their relationship special? And how do they keep their love and devotion for each other for that long.
I know they are just birds. I am human, and it is hard to fathom such love and devotion at times in my own relationship. I am just so curious if their relationship is easy. Do they find each other attractive even after years of being together? Being in the wild they are so dependent on one another. They live together and bring new gosling into the world every year. Both parents take part in the upbringing. The male community of geese display caring and protective nature towards their female counterparts and will even stand between danger and her.
Geese provide a great example how a relationship should be. Love. Devotion. Protection. Cooperation. They rely on one another. If it was only that easy sometimes. Being in a relationship is hard work. It is not easy. I have been married for 21 years and at times, it has been a real struggle. Do you ever feel that it is not worth it? Do you ever feel that sometimes it would be easier to be alone? I do sometimes.
Then there are times, when you quit thinking so hard. Humans put so much thought in every little thing. I don’t think Geese worry about the things we worry about. Life becomes so stressful at times and instead of depending upon the other we push each other further apart. We are crazy. Why do we do that? Why do we make things so complicated? Why can’t we just be like the geese.
My husband has been by my side for the last 21 years, and could have left at any moment. Trust me, I have not been the easiest person to love. He could have left. There are times he wanted me to leave. It happened five years ago to be exact, but it all worked out in the end. I think every relationship has their moments where they just want to quit trying. I am glad we have stuck it out all these years. I love him, and I know he loves me to. Do we “like” each other at times? I think we all know the answer to that question.
All I know is that I can’t imagine my life without him. I hope he feels the same. I have visions of the two of us sitting on our front porch swing, watching the grandchildren play in the yard. I want to be that couple who celebrates their 50th, 60th, and if we live long enough our 70th anniversary. I don’t want to be with anyone else, and to be honest if something ever happened to him, I don’t think I would want to ever marry again. So maybe I am more like the geese than I think I am.
I hope you find your forever mate. I hope you find the person that you would stand in front of and protect, when in danger. I pray that when you find your person, you treat them with love, devotion, and forever kindness. Even though that may be something I will forever work on, he deserves nothing less.